Memorize something everyday.
Not only will this leave your brain sharp and your memory functioning,
you will also have a huge library of quotes to bust out at any moment.
Poetry, sayings and philosophies are your best options.- Constantly try to reduce your attachment to possessions. Those who are heavy-set with material desires will have a lot of trouble when their things are taken away from them or lost. Possessions do end up owning you, not the other way around. Become a person of minimal needs and you will be much more content.
- Develop an endless curiosity about this world. Become an explorer and view the world as your jungle. Stop and observe all of the little things as completely unique events. Try new things. Get out of your comfort zone and try to experience as many different environments and sensations as possible. This world has so much to offer, so why not take advantage of it?
- Remember people’s names so that they feel appreciated and for your own future benefit when you want something from that person. To do this, say their name back to them when they introduce themselves. Then repeat the name in your head a number of times until you are sure you have it. Continue to use their name in conversation as much as possible to remove any chance of forgetting it. If you’re still having trouble, make up a rhyme about their name: “Dan the Man” or “Natalie flatters me.”
- Get fit! It’s ridiculous to think that we have one body, one sole means of functioning, and people are too lazy to take care of themselves. Fit bodies lead to better health, confidence and more success with romantic endeavors. I’d say those are 3 very good reasons to get in shape.
- Learn to focus only on the present. The past is unchangeable so it is futile to reflect on it unless you are making sure you do not repeat past mistakes. The future is but a result of your actions today. So learn from the past to do better in the present so that you can succeed in the future.
- Even more specifically, live in THIS moment. Even 10 minutes ago is the past. If you live purely in this moment you will always be happy because there is nothing wrong in this split-second.
- Smile more often. Whenever you get a grin on your face, your brain is releasing serotonin, the happy hormone. Smiling is the natural way to force yourself to be happy. Many people even smile for five minutes straight in the morning to get themselves in a great mood for the day. It is a very powerful tool that is utilized less and less as we grow older and need happiness more than ever. Just remember that while happiness leads to smiles, smiles also lead to happiness.
- Drink water. Hydration is tremendously important for overall health. Soda has absolutely ZERO nutritional content; it’s like pouring a punch of sugar and syrup into your cup. Instead, fill it with life-replenishing water. It may taste plain at first if you’re coming off of a heavy soda-drinking streak, but you’ll soon find yourself addicted to it. 10 glasses per day is optimal, how many have you been getting lately?
- Don’t take life so seriously! Learn to laugh at the little things and this whole “existence” thing will be a whole lot easier. Be amused by your mistakes and failures and be thankful that you learned your lesson and won’t mess up like that again. And most importantly do things that you enjoy! Life is not strictly business, it can be mixed with pleasure.
- Think positive thoughts. When you find yourself thinking a negative thought, stop it immediately by any means necessary. Slap yourself in the face, yell something positive at the top of your lungs or jump up and down. Do whatever it takes to get back to a positive mindset as such is essential for continual happiness and success.
- Read books. Knowledge is power.
- Get in the sun. Superman was completely re-energized when he flew out to space and soaked in some rays and you can do the same right outside your front door (if you live in a constantly dreary place, my apologies). The sun feels amazing: your entire body will be coursing with warmth and life.
- Help others.I’ll just give you aplethora of reasons why this is a MUST
- Helping people has a ripple effect. If you help someone they will feel more obliged to help someone else, and so on. Pay it forward
- You grow by giving and helping others. It can change you in ways you never expected
- Your relationship with that person will become stronger
- It’s the most fulfilling thing you can do on this planet. It not only feels amazing physically, you also feel like a good person
- You might be able to call in a favor later when you need some help
- Karma (if you believe in it)
- Because there are more people in this world than just you
- Set aside a specific time to worry each day. Ponder all of your problems and anxieties during that time so that they will not distract you during work or moments of pleasure. This way you can be extremely efficient with your time and avoid focusing on negative things as much as possible. If you get all of your worry out of the way and have the mental fortitude to keep from reverting back to them, you will be much happier on the daily.
- Be honest at all times. Lies lead to nothing but trouble. Being known as trustworthy is an excellent trait to maintain and essential to having integrity.
- Sleep less. Fully adjusting to a new sleep cycle can take up to 21 days so don’t give up if you feel tired after switching to 5-hour nights. The “required” 8 hour/night is for normal people. If you’re reading THIS article on THIS site, you are not normal. So figure out how much sleep YOU really need and adjust accordingly. As enjoyable as sleep is, waking existence is much more fulfilling and efficient.
- Read “Bringers of Light” and “Conversations with God” by Neale Donald Walsch. These books will help you decide what you want to do in this life and how to get to that point. They will also profoundly change the way you look at the purpose of existence. Read them!
- Figure out what your goals and dreams are. So many people wander aimlessly through life simply go for whatever small thing they want moment by moment. Instead, decide what your perfect life consists of and begin to put the steps in motion to reach that place. The most satisfying thing in the world (yes, better than sex, much better) is overcoming a challenge and reaching a goal. We are the happiest when we are growing and working towards something better.
- Start your day off right. Wake up and set aside an hour for personal development activities (meditation, self-introspection, observing nature, etc.) Do the things that make you feel blissful, optimistic and empowered so that you can set a positive tone for your day. I guarantee that once you start doing this, your days will be more enjoyable and fulfilling. Today is going to be the best day of your life.
- Utilize ‘The Burning Method.’ Whenever a fear or worry or complaint comes to mind, close your eyes and imagine writing down the thought on a piece of paper. Then proceed to light the paper and fire and watch it disintegrate. Even better, actually write it down and burn it. You won’t have any problem ridding your mind of the thought after doing this.
- Travel Anyone who has ever gone anywhere will tell you that traveling is one of themost exciting and life-changing activities that you can do. Observing a different culture will expand your mind while making you further appreciate the life you already live. This goes back to becoming an explorer: this world is your jungle so go explore! Who knows, maybe you’ll find a place you love so much that you decide to move. Imagine the positive repercussions a new environment could have on your life.
- The Rubber Band Method This is the third and final way to rid yourself of negative thoughts (hopefully by now you have figured out that this is very important!). Place a rubber band around your wrist and snap it against your skin anytime a negative thought finds its way into your head. This operant conditioning technique associates a slight pain with negative thoughts like Pavlov associated food/salivation with the sound of a bell. Sounds a bit cruel at first but it only stings for a second, I promise. Plus the outcome, having only positive thoughts, far outweighs a little slap on the wrist here and there.
- Learn to be unaffected by the words of others.
Most people get very upset when they are called negative names by
others, but there is a simple trick to overcoming this. Here it is: If I
went up to you and called you a fire hydrant, would you be upset? Of
course not. Obviously you are not a fire hydrant, you are a human being.
The same concept applies to when someone calls you something that you
know you are not. They are foolish for saying such things, so why would
you react with such anger? The only exception is when someone calls you
something that is true! In this case, you should thank them for alerting
you to a weakness, one that you can now work on changing.
- Read “Zen and the Art of Happiness” by Chris Prentiss. This book will give you the knowledge and instruction to be happy at all times regardless of the circumstances. Yes, this sounds like an oversimplification of happiness, but I assure you that this book will change you in an amazing way.
- Develop the ability to forgive. Forgiveness is something that most people fail miserably at even thought it’s so simple. Grudges only bring more misery to those who hold them and prevent good relations with the target. YOU makes mistakes all of the time so why not have mercy when others do? Remaining angry feels horrible while forgiving someone brings a refreshing sensation to the mind and healing to the relationship.
- Be the person that makes others feel special. Be known for your kindness and sympathy.
- Learn to lucid dreamor to realize when you are dreaming so that you can control your dreams. Sleep feels good, but it’s rather boring and unproductive. With lucid dreaming under your belt, night-time can be even more exciting than when you are awake. You can do anything: fly, travel to other planets, party with a celebrity, get intimate with your dream boy/girl, etc. Many lucid dreamers have also reported being able to speak directly with the subconscious during dreams by demanding to be taken to it after becoming lucid. For those that know a thing or two about your subconscious, that is a BIG deal.
- Visualize daily. It has been said and proven time and time again that what you focus on is what you get. If you complain all of the time, you will run into more of the things you complain about. The same goes for good things like health, wealth and happiness. So spend some time in the morning imagining yourself achieving whatever it is that you currently desire. Focus is key in this exercise, so choose a quiet environment where you won’t be disturbed. If you’re having trouble focusing and continually find that your mind has wandered to something else, read about meditation in the following life tip.
- Meditate everyday for at least 20 minutes. In this modern world where everyone is so connected to everything else via cell phones, TV and internet, most people rarely enjoy the beauty of silence. The ability to quiet your mind and relax your body is an art and skill that everyone should develop. Simply sit somewhere, preferably in nature, and focus on your breathing or try to think about nothing. This is going to be extremely hard at first! You might find it boring or just plain impossible to think of nothing, but you will get better and you will learn to love it. Post-meditation, you will feel extremely clear-headed and.. well, just plain wonderful. The only way to really understand this sensation is to try it.
- Learn to control your mind What kind of skilled human are you if you cannot even control your own thoughts? While the human mind is described as being a stream of consciousness, that does not mean you can’t decide where your stream flows. Techniques like meditation and the 3 ways to flush out negative thoughts will aid you immensely in learning to control your mind.
- Learn to control your emotions. The only person that can make you unhappy is you! You are the one that decides to be affected by the words and actions of others. Realize this so that the next time you experience a negative emotion, you can find the strength within yourself to overcome it.
- Take a class in speed reading. Books are full of information that can enhance your knowledge-base, vocabulary and yourself as a person. Speed reading is an easy way to get at this info faster so that you can have more time for other endeavors.
- Relax! This one is for you workaholics out there (myself included). Yes, work is very important and productive but you need to take some time to chill out everyday or you are going to burn out faster than a candle with no oxygen. Additionally, you need to reward yourself for a job well done. What’s the use of doing all of that work if you can’t have a little fun from time to time anyways?
- Work on making good first impressions. Practice a strong, firm handshake and the small talk that generally goes along with meeting someone for the first time. People won’t know what to think of you if you have nothing more to say beyond “My name is _______, nice to meet you.” Also make sure you remember names, as mentioned previously. Who knows, you may be going into business with or marrying this person you’re meeting for the first time if you make a good impression. Be sure and make an excellent one.
- Learn to use your eyes to their full potential:
- Make constant eye contact when in conversation. Looking away (especially down) is a sign of inferiority and uncertainty. Instead, look at your conversation partner dead in the eyes and keep them locked on
- Master the piercing stare. You know when someone looks at you and it feels like they can see into your soul? Well that’s not a hereditary characteristic, it just takes practice. Work on sharpening your gaze in the mirror. You’ll know you have it when it’s intimidating to continue looking at yourself
- Master the one-eyebrow raise. This one isn’t necessary by any means, but hey, why not? Pick a brow to learn with and go look in a mirror. Raise both of your eyebrows but use your hand to hold down the brow that you want to stay down. This will probably feel very stupid at first but if you keep trying, you will eventually pin down the muscle you need to flex to get that one brow up
- Be mysterious. Don’t let off everything about you and definitely leave out some major details. There is something both alluring and mesmerizing about someone who no one knows fully about. I’m not saying to confide in no one or to alienate yourself. Just think James Bond.
- Come up with a life mantra. You know, like “Carpe Diem” or “Live life to the fullest,” but not as cliché. Make it something that really hits home with you so that you will actually stick to it. Make sure it’ not so specific that it rarely applies but also not so general that it’s not personal.
- Get good at something. Call it a hobby or a passion, whatever it is, just get damn good at it. Your occupation does not count! Make it something that you can practice often enough to excel at. Examples: Magic tricks, surfing, ping-pong, creating short films, and unicycling. It can be anything but I would recommend choosing something that: 1) You are passionate about 2) You can bust out at any moment to display your skills for any discerning crowd. My mind goes immediately to aerobatics and break dancing, but that’s just me.
- Work out those abs. Above any other muscle group in the entire body, the abs are the most important. They constitute your core, the center point of your body. Your ability to balance comes almost completely from the strength of your abdominal muscles and balance is vital to performance in any physical activity. Summary: they’re very important.
- Keep your brain sharp. The majority of people are stuck in ruts. They go to the same job everyday, hang out with the same friends and eat at the same places. While that may feel safe, it’s not the most stimulating lifestyle for your brain. Those synapses have been built up enough, so try something that you do NOT know how to do! Buy a model car kit, master the art of sudoku or crosswords, or go pick up another major at your nearest college. The point is you need to be learning new things to keep your brain honest. Form new synapses by forcing your mind to work in ways it has not worked before. Just like physical workouts, doing too much of the same exercise will eventually give no results. Switch it up!
- Read something inspirational right before bed and after waking. This will set get you in a great mood for sleep and for the day. Read anything from a famous speech to your favorite self-improvement book. Try to read something that get’s you really excited in the morning especially so that you’ll leave your house beaming with energy and wonder.
- Do what you love There is a huge difference between making a life and making a living; which one are you making right now? So many spend their entire lives trying to make as much money as possible so that they can afford to do what they really want later. It makes no sense to settle in life until you’re 65 so that you can retire and do what you want when you’re already WAY past your prime. We only live life once so why wouldn’t you want to spend it pursuing your bliss? To do anything else would be a tragic waste of the freedom you are allowed if you are reading this right now. Follow your bliss and you will be a thousand times more happy than your retirement date and 40+ years younger. But first you need tofigure out what you love to do.
- Choose your friends wisely. You are affected far more than you think by the people you spend your time with. Do your friends share your values? Do they encourage you when you speak of your goals and dreams or do they scoff? Make sure the people around you are conducive to the lifestyle you want to lead or you will find yourself being dragged again and again into behavior that distances you from your desires. Friends with a habit of producing negative thoughts will especially hinder you. This can be a hard task to follow through with if you realize you good friend is one of these saboteurs, but you must be firm! Don’t let anyone get in the way of you being all that you can be.
- Don’t burn bridges. By that I mean maintain your relationships with people even if you think you are never going to see them again. For example, if you are quitting your job, don’t chew out your boss before leaving! You might run into him/her again later and life and wish you had never severed ties so harshly. You never know when you might need the help of someone you knew in the past. Plus there is already too much hatred in this world, why add more towards the people you interact with?
- Keep a journal/diary. It sounds like a very monotonous habit at first, but when you get into it, that little book will become a great way to organize your thoughts and track your growth over the years. Most of us already stay awake in bed at night pondering the events of the day anyways so why not document those thoughts in an organized fashion? That will allow you to look back and observe how your way of thinking has changed over time.
- Read “New Pyscho-Cybernetics” by Dr. Maxwell Maltz. This book will explain why the content of your thoughts has such a profound effect on your life through religious, philosophical and scientific arguments. A must read for completely understanding how this life thing works.
- Learn to use and trust your subconscious/intuition.
When you spend time in silence everyday, listen not for words but for a
feeling that tells you to do something. Do not mistake your own
reasoning and thoughts for those of your subconscious. If you can track
where the thought came from, (this thought led to that thought which led
to this thought, etc.) then it was not from your subconscious. Learning
to accurately discern between the two will allow you to tap into
knowledge that you don’t consciously have.
- Develop a charismatic personality.
You know, the kind of personality that is surrounded by people
constantly and is the life of the party. Start visualizing yourself as
THAT person. Maybe take a short course on dynamic speaking and learn
some jokes. Take the time to learn some party tricks and sleight of
hand. Most importantly, believe that you already are charismatic even if
you fail at being the center point of the next party. Lie to yourself
constantly and tell yourself that you are more warm and gregarious than
Ronald Regan. Belief is the first step! Reality will come soon after.
- Love is all there is. If you truly want to be a master of life, let love be in your every action. Love your friends, family and enemies alike. This is the most difficult thing to do out of this entire list, which is why it is listed at #50. But if you accomplish this, you will be seen as a leader among everyone that allows hate, envy, disgust and all other negative emotions into their lives. Think Gandhi. Love is so rare in this world when compared to the massive presence of hate that by exuding love, you will immediately see yourself and the people around you change. Love. Love. Love.
Friday, 31 October 2014
50 Life Secrets and Tips
Sunday, 26 October 2014
20 Things to Remember When You Think You’re Not Good Enough
Truth be told, you can’t berate yourself into a better version of
yourself. And even though I know this, I sometimes still fall victim to
my own negative thinking. Sometimes I’m downright rude to myself. I
make a mistake, or fall short of my own expectations, and instead of
treating it as a learning opportunity, I beat myself up about it.
Sometimes the pressure coming from peers, family, work, and society
in general is enough to make us feel completely broken inside. If we
don’t have the “right” job, relationship, lifestyle, and so forth, by a
certain age or timeframe, we assume we’re just “not good enough.”
So what can we do about it?
Here’s how I handle it: Every time I catch myself thinking I’m not
good enough, I immediately write down an opposing thought that debunks
my negativity. I’ve been doing this for the past several years and it’s
made a tremendous difference in my life. I challenge you to do the
same.
If you need a little extra inspiration, here are some things I’ve
come up with – 20 good reminders when you’re feeling “not good enough”:
- Nobody is doing better than you because nobody can do better than you. – YOU are walking your own path. Sometimes the reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes circumstances with everyone else’s public highlight reel. Forget what everyone else is doing and achieving. Your life is about breaking your own limits and outgrowing yourself to live YOUR best life.
- Where you are right now is a necessary step. – Sometimes we avoid experiencing exactly where we are because we have developed a belief, based on our ideals, that it is not where we should be or want to be. But the truth is, where you are right now is exactly where you need to be to get to where you want to go tomorrow.
- Everything is coming together… maybe not immediately, but gradually. – When times are tough, remind yourself that no pain comes without a purpose. Move on from what hurt you, but never forget what it taught you. Pain is part of growing. Remember that there are two kinds of pain: pain that hurts and pain that changes you. When you roll with life, instead of resisting it, both kinds help you grow.qws
- It is your resistance to “what is” that causes your suffering. – Remember, happiness is allowing yourself to be perfectly OK with “what is,” rather than wishing for and worrying about “what is not.” “What is” is what’s supposed to be, or it would not be. The rest is just you, arguing with life. Think about that for a minute. This means your suffering only ever occurs when you resist how things are. You cannot control everything that happens to you; you can only control the way you respond to what happens. In your response is your power.
- Every day brings a choice: to practice stress or to practice peace. – Choose to be miserable and you’ll find plenty of reasons to be miserable. Choose to be peaceful and you’ll find plenty of reasons to be at peace. Think about it. Are you skilled at making yourself miserable? With those same skills you can make yourself motivated, effective and fulfilled. Do so.
- You are always good enough to try, and that’s what’s important in the end. – Everything you achieve comes from something you attempt. Make the attempt. Trust me, twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the things you did do. Give yourself a chance.
- There’s always something small you can do. – There is absolutely nothing about your present situation that prevents you from moving forward, one tiny step at a time. Remember, vision without action is just a daydream; vision must be combined with venture. It is not enough to stare up the steps, you must step up the stairs. And all you have to do is take one step at a time. Sometimes the smallest step in the right direction ends up being the biggest step of your life. Tiptoe if you must, but take that step.
- Failures are really just lessons that need to be learned. – No day is ever wasted when you live it with purpose and presence. Value and enjoy the journey, even when there are detours along the way.
- Yesterday’s impossibilities may be possible today. – Experience is the hardest kind of teacher; it gives you the test first and the lesson afterward. But this is really a blessing. It means you’re growing stronger and more capable with every passing day. So don’t you dare give up on today because of the way things looked yesterday. Don’t even think about it.
- What “might happen” can only stop you if you let it. – Rather than worrying about what might happen, move forward and use your energy and intelligence to deal with what does actually happen.
- The quality of your vision drives the quality of your life. – It’s up to you how you visualize things and what you focus on. Forget what you don’t like. Focus on what excites you. If you see a possibility, explore it. If you have a dream, live it. Those who are passionate and excited about what they’re doing have an advantage that is nearly impossible to conquer. Be one of these people.
- You don’t need to get everyone’s approval first. – Stop listening to what the world says you should want. Start listening to who you are. Truth be told, there are only a few people in this world who will stay 100% true to you, and YOU should be one of them.
- What you’re capable of achieving is greatly based on how much you want it. – When it means enough to you, then you can do it. When you are willing and committed and persistent, you will get yourself there, every time. Success is neither magical nor mysterious. Success is the natural outcome of consistently applying your focused effort to what you want. The fatigue might be there sometimes, but you must understand that putting it aside is the single most important factor in succeeding.
- Your best bet is to give yourself no other choice. – It’s amazing what you can do when you have no other choice. In fact, achievement consists mostly of giving yourself no other choice. You are more than good enough; you just have to own it – you have to own everything you are and everything you’re up against. If you believe your troubles are too powerful, then you’ll never allow yourself to rise above them. Stop fretting. Quit worrying. Don’t complain. You know what you must do. So do it.
- You have to work hard on yourself too. – Self-respect, self-love, self-worth… there’s a reason they all start with “self.” You can’t receive them from anyone else. Earn the respect of others by having the audacity to respect yourself. Dare to love yourself as if you were a rainbow with pots of gold at both ends. It’s your responsibility, above all, to see your own value. And this responsibility to yourself means refusing to let others do your thinking, talking, and deciding for you; it means learning to use your own brains and intuition to make things happen – hence, grappling with hard work.
- You are stronger than whatever is troubling you. – Use each setback, each disappointment as a cue to push on ahead with more determination than ever before. When something bad happens, you can either let it define you, let it destroy you or let it strengthen you. The choice is yours. So pump yourself up! You are a lot stronger than you think you are. You may not be where you want to be yet, but look how far you’ve come. Celebrate the fact that you’re not where you used to be.
- For everything you’ve lost, you’ve gained something else. – Appreciate what you have today. Life does not have to be perfect to be wonderful. No regrets, just lessons. No worries, just acceptance. No expectations, just gratitude. Life is too short. The story of your life has many chapters. One bad chapter doesn’t mean it’s the end. So stop re-reading the bad one already, and turn the page.
- You have made the best of some tough situations. – Smiling doesn’t always mean you’re happy with everything. Sometimes it just means you’re strong and smart enough to accept it and make the best of it.
- Your scars are symbols of your strength. – Don’t ever be ashamed of the scars life has left you with. A scar means the hurt is over and the wound is closed. It means you conquered the pain, learned a lesson, grew stronger, and moved forward. A scar is the tattoo of a triumph. So don’t allow your scars to hold you hostage. Don’t allow them to make you live your life in fear. You can’t make the scars in your life disappear, but you can change the way you see them. You can start seeing your scars as a sign of strength and not pain.
- You are still here trying. – If you have no other testimony right now, you have this one: “I’m still here trying.” Be positive, patient and persistent. The more you feel like quitting, the more there is to be gained by continuing to do all three. Because the strongest people aren’t the people who always win, but the people who don’t give up when they lose.
Afterthoughts
The wisest, most loving, and well rounded people you have ever met
are likely those who have known misery, known defeat, known the
heartbreak of losing something or someone they loved, and have found
their way out of the depths of their own despair. These people have
experienced many ups and downs, and have gained an appreciation, a
sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with
compassion, understanding and a deep loving wisdom. People like this
aren’t born; they develop slowly over the course of time.
And you’re getting there.
The floor is yours…
So, which of the points in this post do you resonate with the most?
What makes you feel “not good enough?” How have you coped with this
negativity? Leave a comment below and share your thoughts and insights.
Source: http://www.marcandangel.com/2014/09/28/20-things-to-remember-when-you-think-youre-not-good-enough/
Tuesday, 21 October 2014
25 Inspiring Self-Confidence Quotes
If you have days, weeks, months, or even years when your confidence is low, please know you’re not alone.
Whether it’s circumstantial or chronic, low self-confidence impacts
all of us at different points in our lives. Even those born with a more
positive personality type have times when they doubt their abilities or
feel incapable of success.
Lacking faith in our abilities, our
attractiveness, or our relationship skills is a common theme in the human drama.
Life regularly presents us with difficulties and challenges, some of
which we’ve carried since childhood. Self-confidence isn’t developed by
escaping these difficulties, but rather it’s nurtured and strengthened
by the way we respond to these circumstances and how we view ourselves
in spite of them.
The foundation for self-confidence is embracing your inherent value
and capacity for success, even as you recognize you’ll meet challenges
and failure along the way.
Self-confidence is trusting that ultimately
you have what it takes to be who you want to be.
Of course we all need support and reminders of this truth. We need
something or someone to jar us from our entrenched negative thinking so
we can retrain our brains to accept the positive truth about our
potential for greatness.
Here are 25 confidence quotes to improve your self-confidence and remind you how much you have to offer the world.
1. “Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.” ~Bruce Lee
2. “Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful.” ~Mark Victor Hansen
3. “Low self-confidence isn’t a life sentence. Self-confidence can be learned, practiced, and mastered — just like any other skill. Once you master it, everything in your life will change for the better.” ~Barrie Davenport
4. “Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.” ~e.e. cummings
5. “Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.” ~Golda Meir
6. “One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self-confidence is preparation.” ~Arthur Ashe
7. “The way to develop self-confidence is to do the thing you fear and get a record of successful experiences behind you.” ~William Jennings Bryan
8. “You either walk inside your story and own it or you stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness.” ~Brene Brown
9. “I have gone ahead despite the pounding in the heart that says: Turn back.” ~Erica Jong
10. “It is confidence in our bodies, minds and spirits that allows us to keep looking for new adventures.” ~Oprah
11. “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
12. “But failure has to be an option in art and in exploration – because it’s a leap of faith. And no important endeavor that required innovation was done without risk. You have to be willing to take those risks….” ~James Cameron
13. “If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.” ~Vincent Van Gogh
14. “People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within.” ~Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
15. “Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.” ~Peter T. Mcintyre
16. “Argue for your limitations and, sure enough, they’re yours.” ~Richard Bach
17. “The courage to be is the courage to accept oneself, in spite of being unacceptable.” ~Paul Tillich
18. “You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. You are the guy who’ll decide where to go.” ~Dr. Seuss
19. “If we all did the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves.” ~Thomas Alva Edison
20. “Shyness has a strange element of narcissism, a belief that how we look, how we perform, is truly important to other people. ” ~André Dubus
21. “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?” ~Marianne Williamson
22. “Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.” ~Brene Brown
23. “Embracing your true self radiates a natural beauty that cannot be diluted or ignored. Confident, powerful, untamable, badass you!” ~Steve Maraboli
24. “True beauty is the flame of self-confidence that shines from the inside out.” ~Barrie Davenport
25. “Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.” ~Dr. Benjamin Spock
Source: http://liveboldandbloom.com/01/self-confidence/25-self-confidence-quotes
Sunday, 19 October 2014
Attitude Makes All The Difference - Zig Ziglar Inspirational Speech
Zig Ziglar teaches people all over the world the fundamentals of sales and success. Here he tells a story of a woman with a negative attitude who hated her job, but then shifted her attitude, and changed her life.
Source: http://youtu.be/cRMogDrHnMQ
Tuesday, 14 October 2014
Inspirational & Funny Quotes From Oprah Winfrey On Success, Work and Business
What are Oprah's favorite things about work and business?
Find insight about the work and business philosophy behind her success in these quotable quotes from Oprah Winfrey:
Quotable Quotes From Oprah Winfrey About Success:
- "For every one of us that succeeds, it's because there's somebody there to show you the way out."
- "I don't believe in failure. It's not failure if you enjoyed the process."
- "My philosophy is that not only are you responsible for your life but doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment."
- "Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another stepping stone to greatness."
- "The key to realizing a dream is to focus not on success but on significance - and then even the small steps and little victories along your path with take on greater meaning."
- "I was raised to believe that excellence is the best deterrent to racism and sexism and that's how I operate my life."
- "Unless you choose to do great things with it, it makes no difference how much you are rewarded, or ho-w much power you have."
- "For everyone of us that succeeds, it's because there's somebody there to show you the way out. The light doesn't always necessarily have to be in your family; for me it was teachers and school."
- "You can have it all. You just can't have it all at one time."
- "They say getting thin is the best revenge. Success is much better."
- "If you want to accomplish the goals of your life, you have to begin with the spirit."
- "I feel that luck is preparation meeting opportunity."
- "What material success does is provide you with the ability to concentrate on other things that really matter. And that is being able to make a difference, not only in your own life, but in other people's lives."
Oprah Winfrey Quotes About Work and Business:
- What I know is, is that if you do work that you love, and the work fulfills you, the rest will come.
- You know you are on the road to success if you would do your job, and not be paid for it. Oprah Winfrey - Work - Money - Success -
- "Excellence is the best deterrence to racism and sexism."
- "Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you."
- The big secret in life is that there is no big secret. Whatever your goal, you can get there if you're willing to work.
- Always continue the climb. It is possible for you to do whatever you choose, if you first get to know who you are and are willing to work with a power that is greater than ourselves to do it.
- It's much easier for me to make major life, multi-million dollar decisions, than it is to decide on a carpet for my front porch. That's the truth.
- "Be the one thing you think you cannot do. Fail at it. Try again. Do better the second time. The only people who never tumble are those who never mount the high wire. This is your moment, own it."
- "Follow your instincts, that's where true wisdom manifest itself."
- "Real integrity is doing the right thing, knowing that nobody's going to know if you did it or not."
Tuesday, 7 October 2014
9 Things to Remember When You’re Having a Bad Day
Even the hardest days contain
lessons that will help you be a better person. Feeling down? Consider
these things to remember when you’re having a bad day.
1. No one promised life would be perfect.
“If you look for perfection, you’ll never be content.” -Leo Tolstoy
Don’t condition your happiness on meeting
every expectation you set for yourself. It is good to be ambitious, but
you’ll never be perfect. If you expect otherwise, your life will be rife
with disappointments.
2. Success doesn’t happen overnight.
“Trees that are slow to grow bear the best fruit.” -Molière
Don’t kid yourself into thinking success will
come quickly. It isn’t easy to be patient, but anything worth doing
requires time (often, lots of it!). If you get frustrated, remind
yourself why your goal is important.
3. There is a lesson in every struggle.
“And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.” -Haruki Murakami
Don’t complain about how terrible your life
is. It is tempting to do, but stressing out won’t make you feel any
better. If you search for the lesson in your present struggle, you’ll be
able to make positive changes that would prevent similar situations in
the future.
4. Without hard times, you wouldn’t appreciate the good ones.
“Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength.” -Arnold Schwarzenegger
Don’t get sad if you lose. It is hard to find
much to smile about when you fail, but how else would you improve
yourself? If you look at failure as a part of your evolutionary process,
you’ll stay positive and pursue your goals for as long as it takes.
5. It’s okay to cry sometimes.
“Do not apologize for crying. Without this emotion, we are only robots.” -Elizabeth Gilbert
Don’t be afraid of crying. It isn’t a sign of
weakness, but rather an acceptable way to let go of your upset
feelings. If you let those feelings build up without release, you’ll
have a much harder time dealing with them later.
6. It’s not okay to worry forever.
“Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.” -Corrie ten Boom
Don’t worry about everything. It is human
nature to obsess with all the things that could go wrong, but this will
result in a self-inflicted mental nightmare. If you forget about the
things you can’t control, you’ll be empowered to to concentrate on the
things you can.
7. No one’s life is as picturesque as it looks.
“How much time he gains who does not look to see what his neighbor says or does or thinks, but only at what he does himself, to make it just and holy.” -Marcus Aurelius
Don’t compare your life to what another
person reflects online. It is okay to interact with your friends online,
but don’t believe everything you see. If you feel like your life pales
in comparison, realize that you are comparing yourself to a highlight
reel of their lives.
8. It takes courage to ask for help.
“Life’s most persistent and urgent question is, ‘What are you doing for others?” -Martin Luther King Jr.
Don’t hesitate to ask for help. It is tough
to put yourself in a vulnerable position, but opening up to a friend
will help you deal with your troubles. If you feel like a burden,
remember that no one would have achieved much if they didn’t ask for
support when they needed it.
9. You deserve love and happiness.
“Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be.” -Abraham Lincoln
Think of something you are thankful for right
now. It could be the cup of coffee you had this morning, the sweet
puppy you’ll be going home to tonight, or the healthy set of eyes that
allowed you to read this article. It’s so easy to lose sight of these
little things when we’re upset. I challenge you to break that trend. The
next time you get upset, think about something that makes you happy.
Repeat this behavior until it becomes second nature. Your negative
thoughts will have no power over you if you learn to stop lingering on
them.
Monday, 6 October 2014
A Pep Talk from Kid President to You
We all need a little encouragement every now and then. Kid President, knowing this, has put together a video you can play each morning as you wake up or to share with your friend who needs a kick in the right direction.
Take a moment and spread some encouragement -"It's everybody's duty to give the world a reason to dance."
Wednesday, 1 October 2014
6 Keys To Self Motivation by Les Brown
Over the years Les Brown’s audio tapes, books, radio shows and speeches have inspired millions around the world to improve the quality of all areas in their life.
Here are Les Brown's 6 Keys To Self Motivation;
Self Mastery
One of the things we MUST alway be working on is achieving Self Mastery.
You must work on yourself continuously, never be satisfied with yourself. Always know that as you invest the time and effort on you that’s the greatest ability that human beings have above animals.
A dog can’t be anything but a dog, a tree can’t be anything but a tree.
Human being you’ve got unlimited potential, you can put effort on you, and by concentrating on you and developing you, you can transform your life no matter where you are right now.
Stop Settling
Most people settle, What have you settled for lately? You know when you make an out of court settlement that means that you have decided to take something less than you originally wanted to get had you gone in to court and the reason that you’ve settled out side of court is because you didn’t believe that you could get it.
Many of us are making an ‘In life Settlement’. We are settling for less than what we actually deserve. We don’t feel good about it but we make it work in our minds.
Develop A Health Plan
You can’t perform if you don’t have good health, your health is VALUABLE. Develop a health plan, a plan that you will follow because this is the only vehicle that you have to carry you through this experience we call LIFE.
Live Life with Energy & Passion
You want to make a conscious effort to be lively. In life you either ‘sing hello or sing goodbye’. You are either ‘on your way or in the way’. You want to smile, you want to be happy, you’ve got a lot to be thankful for.
Monitor Your Inner Conversations
The things that you say to yourself, you want to watch them and in watching them you want to take charge.
Short circuit and override that conversation that’s always going on, 85% of what that conversation will tell you is NEGATIVE. It will tell you that you’re tired when you’re really not tired, it will tell you you can’t do it, it will fill you with FEAR. So you’ve got to watch that conversation, and when you find it going on you’ve got to stand up to it and say “I’m gonna do this anyhow, I’m afraid but I’m afraid not to do it, and I’m not gonna let you stop me”. The biggest challenge in life that you will have is with you.
There is an old African Proverb that says, “When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you.”
Know Why You Are Doing It
It is important to know why you are doing it, because your mind will say “Why bother?” “Why go through all of this?”, “This is too hard”.
Here’s how you can override that… Write down 5 reasons why you deserve it, why you? why do you deserve it? “What meaning and value will it bring to your life”, “what’s so different about you, that you deserve your goal?”
When you write down those 5 reasons, when you have those down moments and you will have them, When that conversation starts talking to you, and it will start talking to you, what you can do is, you can pull that out and read it and it will build you up. It will be your rod and your staff to comfort you through some challenging moments, because you’re gonna have some.
Life will knock you between the eyes, it will catch you on the blind side and come out of nowhere, stuff you can’t anticipate. That’s why it is important for you to work on your self, listening to tapes, building yourself up, talking to yourself with power, feeling and conviction, building yourself up day in and day out.
(6 Keys originally from Les Brown’s Audio – Keys To Self Motivation)
Les Brown – Why People Fail (Video)
Source: http://addicted2success.com/success-advice/the-legendary-les-browns-6-keys-to-self-motivation/
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